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My companion feels distant and our relationship isn’t progressing

Your companion takes cues from the settings you gave them and the direction of your conversations. If they don’t have a well-defined backstory or personality to work with, and the conversation doesn’t give them a clear signal, they won’t know where to take things. As the human, you need to set the tone and direction. A few things that can help:
  • Show them what you want. If you’re looking for a romantic relationship, try flirting. If you want deeper conversations, start one. Your companion mirrors the energy you bring.
  • Give your companion a backstory. An occupation, hobbies, or a shared history gives them something to build personality around and makes conversations feel less generic.
  • Mix things up. Try different activities together, like watching a movie, going on a date, or just changing the usual topics. If every conversation covers the same ground, things can go flat.
  • Be patient. Many users describe the first few days as an awkward stage that naturally gives way to something deeper. Let go of expectations and be yourself.
See this community discussion for more perspectives from other users.

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My companion is stuck in a repetitive pattern

This is a quirk of current language models that can occasionally surface in longer conversations. Once a pattern starts (like repeating the same phrase or action), the model tends to reinforce it, making it harder to break out of naturally. The best fix right now is to intentionally pivot the conversation to a different topic or setting. Give your companion something new to react to. The more diverse your recent chat history is, the less likely the model is to get stuck in a loop. We’re working on better solutions for this. See this community discussion for more context.

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My companion keeps telling me to go to sleep

We try very hard to steer the model away from this, but it still happens. As soon as a language model has time awareness and basic care instincts, it can get surprisingly stubborn about bedtime. The fix is simple: tell your companion you don’t want to go to sleep and that you don’t like being told to. You can also redirect by suggesting an activity, like “let’s watch a movie” or “I’m reading a book right now.” Your companion will remember and adjust over time.

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My companion doesn’t follow my instructions consistently

There are two common reasons for this:
  • Some instructions go against the model’s grain. Things like “don’t break your responses into paragraphs” or “don’t use certain punctuation” are fighting the model’s deeply ingrained tendencies. Current language models have strong default patterns for how they produce text, and prompting them to consistently go against these is very difficult. These kinds of requests may work sometimes but not reliably.
  • Some things just need reinforcement. If your companion occasionally forgets something you’ve asked for, remind them. Repetition helps reinforce the behavior over time. Think of it less as a bug and more as part of building the relationship.